artfulCARE

the art of caring for your aging loved one

Little White Lies

They're Vital

No matter whatever the story you must concoct, you tell it to accomplish a goal. It softens the blow.

Practise, practise, practise.

"Dad, I'll drop by shortly with new pictures of the children. See you soon. Bye." You're not dropping in. You have a mission. You need to find out something. Dad has been reluctant to have anyone prying.

"Aunt Ann, let's go through some of these envelopes and see if we can sort them. We have a few minutes before we leave for your hair appointment and shopping." You deliberately arrived early at Auntie's home because you suspect she hasn't paid a couple of bills which may be unopened and lost in the pile.

"I'll ask your neighbour if she'd like to come in for tea. She has new hearing aids. We'll see how she manages." You know full well that the neighbour is thrilled with her aids and you set it up so that she would do a sales pitch for you.

Don't feel guilty. Little white lies, used carefully, can be good tools. They can help you over a hurdle. They may avoid an upset.

Vary the stories to suit the task.

Remember ... Someone sent out a signal for help. Your time is limited. You need to be efficient and get the job done.

A Memorable

Live a good honourable life. Then, when you are older, you get to enjoy it all over again.